Jaymi Torrez Pregnancy and Birth Story
Jaymi is a thirty-two year old mother of two (a sassy five year old girl and rough-and-tumble one year old boy). She stays home with the kids, and she and her son participate in a Co-Op preschool while Lila is in school. She blogs over at thesaltymamas.com, and loves learning and writing about the little luxuries in life, her favorite hustles, and the joys (and struggles) of parenting. Read as Jaymi tells us about her rainbow baby, Abram.
Was your pregnancy planned or a surprise?
Very much planned!
If planned, how long did you try to conceive?
About a year.
How did you share the news with your partner, family, and friends?
We waited until about three months along to tell anyone, since we had suffered multiple losses in the past. The losses weren’t a secret, we just wanted the next time we announced a pregnancy to be a joyful experience, backed with the benefit of time. Our family lives out of town, so I announced my pregnancy by turning up at a family event with a very pregnant belly. It was very exciting for everyone!
Which was your favorite trimester?
Oh my, this is a tough one. None of them were ideal! I guess I felt most “in the zone” in the second trimester. I felt somewhat better, and was feeling more secure in the pregnancy.
What was your pregnancy MUST HAVE?
Bean Burritos from Taco Bell- with no onions, and extra red sauce! I was so obsessed that it’s what my friends served at my #momsquad baby shower.
Did you find out the gender?
We sure did! At our 18 week anatomy scan (although after our NT scan I was pretty sure I had seen a glimpse of his…um…”boy parts,” so I was pretty confident about what the ultrasound tech would say.
Were there any complications throughout your pregnancy?
The beginning and the end were full of problems! From low progesterone and threatened miscarriage at the beginning (sooooo many medications involved to get him here!), to hypertension at the end, it felt like one big fight to help Abram arrive in this world safely.
Did you go into labor naturally or were you induced?
I was induced due to high blood pressure. My doctor wanted to induce me at 37 weeks, but my readings were still in high-normal range, so I pushed back. We monitored my pressure very carefully for the next three weeks, and it finally got too high the day before he was due. I was so upset, but our health had to come first!
How long were you in labor?
The whole process took five hours, from the time they started Pitocin until he made his grand appearance. He must have been ready to come out!
Did you get an epidural or go all natural?
All natural for me. Thank goodness for my husband and the world’s best L&D nurse, who were my biggest advocates and cheerleaders!
What was the best and worst part about labor and delivery?
The worst was feeling like I had to fight to receive the birth experience I wanted. Don’t get me wrong, whatever gets the babies here safely is what needs to be done. But my doctors made so many assumptions- like insisting that I had to have an epidural since I had Pitocin- that it drove me crazy.
Were there any complications with your delivery?
Everything just moved so fast…which was so good, but SO intense. He did have the cord wrapped around his neck, but thankfully it didn’t cause issues for either of us.
Give us the stats!
Abram was born at 10:23 pm. As a typical second baby, I just had to look up his stats because I couldn’t remember- he was 7 lbs, 4 oz, and 19 1/2 inches long.
What was the hardest thing about the first few weeks of motherhood?
I feel like the second baby was SO much easier. Nursing was easier, the sleepless nights weren’t as agonizing, and I knew about the typical baby ailments. So I guess the hardest part was that Abram was so stinky- his feet, his belly button, and his endless gas. That took some getting used to!
What is the best advice you received as a new mom?
I feel like I’ve blocked it all out. I am the queen of the smile-and-shrug-it-off!
What is your best advice for expectant or new moms?
You’re going to be okay. Don’t listen to the people who are clearly trying to scare you- some parts ARE crazy difficult, but you are crazy capable. You got this, Mamas.
Is there anything else you’d like to share about your journey to motherhood?
Abram is the typical Rainbow baby- he is so, so worth the wait.
You can catch up with Jaymi on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter or follow her blog at thesaltymamas.com!
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